Just A Rant
 

Met this girl online about 5-6 months ago and we talked in the DMs frequently, occasionally called and sext as well. I was pursuing someone else at the time but relationship didn't work out. I talked to this girl about it and she asked me out a couple weeks later which I agreed to.

On the date itself she was very nice to me, held my hand while we walked around even though it was the first time that I ever met her. I really really liked her but then a couple days later she said that she didn't want to be in a relationship which was confusing for me, I said okay and I understand so I backed off. Then literally 2 days later she called me to go to an event that I was supposed to wake up early for but last min decided to sleep in instead because I was tired. Ended up going for the event and saying hi to friends there while she reverted to the holding of hands and being very physically close. If other people looked at us they will assume that we were dating for sure.

Anyway, after the event was over I accompanied her to buy some appliances that she needed for her place and I helped with carrying her stuff because y'know, why not. On the Grab ride home she wanted to sleep for a bit and she laid her head on my lap and I just pat her head from time to time as one would to the person she are affectionate about.

After getting to her place, one thing led to another and we did the nasty. It was mindblowing, did a few things that were firsts for me. After however, I told her that I would have to head back home since I have work the next day which she replied saying why not just stay the night since her place was so near my workplace. I took up and offer and rushed back home to grab my work stuff and went back to her place.

Things were fine for about a week. She was super nice to me and even went down to my workplace with dinner, it was just some bento from NTUC but still, no one has ever done that for me before and I legit ate it with watery eyes.

Yet fast forward to the end of the week, she became super cold towards me and avoided talking to me. I don't understand what I did wrong here, she went from this person who seemed to like me to this person who suddenly did not want to have any relation to me. Obviously I was devastated, I went offline from socials for a while and she somehow got mad at me because she thought I blocked her but I explained that it was something I needed to do since the content that comes on my feed reminds me of her and I needed a break from it.

Fast forward a week again and she went as far as getting me fired from my job because I messaged her about an order she made with the company I worked for. I get that I shouldn't mix work and personal life but I only reached out because I still saw her as a friend/acquaintance.

Did I do anything wrong? I'm still so confused as to how everything came crashing down so abruptly and obviously still quite heartbroken by it.

This takes the cake, when you get fired from your job because of her. She’s an emotional vampire and is throwing her insecurities and emotions onto you. Well.. not to be surprised if she has an existing boyfriend beside you whom she’s also sleeping with.

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She seems to be having fun and ypu having fun. She wants to be in total control and somehow she got bored after the new becomes old. Shes very toxic person, on the outside show other she very nice but she got you fired.

Run as far as you can. At least you fucked her

Re: Just A Rant
 

I would advise TS this kind of girl avoid at all costs! Like other bros suggested as well!

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It’s her loss.

Heartbreak over.

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Dear Mr Xcution,

If what your post by your own personal perceptions & viewpoints are true, she may be suffering from mental personality disorder, and such could be triggered by emotional trauma she experienced at some point in life, that lead to these sad episodes of trust, mistrust & insecurity instincts.

Each Human has their own issues to deal with in life- job, career, family, love & companionship, future, etc, daily, & seldom would have time to deal with additional stresses in life.

The gift of life comes with the gift of free will, to choose & live with the consequences bravely with no regrets that will regress one's long journey in life. Most Humans would assess their own needs for survival & choose accordingly, to live life meaningfully as it is short, as no mortal lives forever.

Thus your confusion & dilemma lays in the desires & choice you will have to make, with her- to help her if you truly love & want her as your companion, or to ...walk..away....

Relationship is important, as it will be the basis which you will find a companion in the journey of life that often is no bed of roses, but challenges that only those whom have true & courageous heart can overcome.

She obviously need help - psychological & even mainstream religious guidances. Asses yourself - are you in a position to help her, spare time, efforts & finances, or can only afford to help yourself, physically & mentally, to survive?

In the end, there may be not even gratitude if she recovered her mental self, are you prepared for such?

The greatest gifts in life is not in receiving, but in giving, with no expectations of reward in any form, proven by many who had gave with such requirements with open hearts & all, within limits, & lived meaningful sleepful peaceful nites, to help evolve Humankind...

Re: Just A Rant
 

play back, or move on.
no point wasting time :D

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TS, run far far far far far far far far away from her. :D

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Break people’s rice bowl. Such a toxic gal.

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You answered your own question:

No "buts". 公私分明. You knew exactly the kind of trouble you could be signing up for. But you were thinking with your dick.

Now you know better.

Your second mistake is to contact her when she's mad at you. We don't need to be psychiatrists to see that this woman has serious emotional baggage of some kind. Why the heck do you have to go poke the bear?

So now, all you have to show for it is no girl and no job. I feel sorry for you, but then again you really screwed the pooch on this one.

Hope you learn from this experience. Better luck next time.

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avoid her like the plague

avoid her like the plague

avoid her like the plague

重要的事情要讲三遍 :p:D

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When you become Simp and Beta, you deserve this.
Society norms: Alpha fucks, Beta bucks.
Keep one simple rule in mind: Ejaculate, Evacuate.

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A typical cringy girlfriend

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You already answered your own question. You have to admit you somehow brought this upon yourself. Consider yourself lucky she didn't do something worse like filing a rape case against you. Chalk it up as a lesson learnt and move on.

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Dr. Jerkyll and Mr. Hyde personality