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Originally Posted by RicochetJuke
I’m 27 this year wife is 26, got a baby this year now 3 months old.
Ever since we got married wife changed and started treating me like a maid in the house. A lot of demands regarding lifestyle and cleanliness, after baby born seldom let let me interact with him because she say I’m not good, cannot learn because I work 6 days work week.
Every day come home get scolded or shouted at, recently become more abusive and violent hitting me. Her father say I cannot hit her back, I am not the type to hit women also, so I just tolerate. Her mother only know how to cause drama between us and always say bad things about me.
Honestly I am not perfect also, one time very long ago she check my phone I got entertain some convos with girls on wechat. Other than that I never did anything else or treat her like shit.
Sometimes I wake up to cook american breakfast for her, I do laundry, iron clothes and general cleaning. From then on she always blackmail me say if I don’t do certain things she will tell everyone about what I did.
My salary not much because of COVID bad times, fresh graduate but I earn about 2k plus take home, I pay rental $1800 every month not much money left. I did not mind paying if it’s a happy family and I sacrifice abit, but I do so much but every day my life at home is hell.
I feel like workplace is becoming like home and home is a workplace. Any advice bros? I know if I get divorce we will lose our BTO that’s still building, lose my son also. After clearing my salary and living from paycheck to paycheck, now she tell me that the money she save is hers only and I cannot depend on her in the future if something happens to me.
Recently I started having depressive thoughts and wanted to take my life a few times, she told me I would not dare to. I am planning to buy a few plans so my son will have some money after I’m gone also.
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Bro... Do not ever think of suicide or hurting yourself... Every problem got solution...
Questions to ask yourself...
1. Do you still love her?
2.Do you want to be with your child to see him grow up every step of his life?
If its yes,
-then put in the extra effort to be a good husband and a good father.
-Learn to be patience with your wife and your child.
-Spend more time at home after work and enrich yourself with knowledge of rising a child and other skills that can improve your worklife and paycheck.
-Maybe your wife after childbirth is having some mental issues and plus yr phone convo with other girls make her lose confident in you.
-Is your wife or yourself local sporeans?
If she not local... Did u guarantor her for the PR?
Did she convert to be sporean yet?
Don't help her to convert.
-You stay with in-laws?
Your main issue is your rental is almost 3/4 your paycheck...How to survive...?
Divorce is last resort.