[larue]

Learn to love yourself. Make changes to your life. Just start with one thing, one little thing. Anything you've been wanting to change for a while but never got round to it.

You'll be much happier.

Odds are you won't do and continue to wallow because that's what most guys do. Remember there is no prize for self or mutual consolation.

You seem reasonably intelligent, it should be easier for you to make the change.

男人不坏, 女人不爱.

Of course don't take the 坏 too literally unless you truly are bad. You get the picture.