[lovemachine]

I messed up hard in life before and turned my life around. I know how u feel.

Deep inside men, we are wired to be competitive.

But not all of us can make it up there.

The question here is, are you working hard enough?

Even when I was down and out running a company, to be honest I had nothing but a dream, a very strong conviction.

so strong that even though i was in debt for 15 years, i NEVER gave up no matter how hard life was. I do not wake up every day feeling motivated, i had to drag myself out of bed to proceed with my day.

This went on for over a decade. I lost count of how many failures I had.

Do u know what is the best part? Even during my low period, I had access to nice pretty girls who were willing to date me.

A few of them knew my situation and were willing to slog it out with me.

Reflecting on this, I would like to share my personal experience that:

1. While most if not all girls want rich men. Not all women who married rich men are happy. Girls are smart and they know rich men have the propensity to cheat. Maybe some girls purely dig rich men, at 39 years old, I have seen many such girls fuck up their marriages

2. Girls also consider men with dreams. Im born in a humble family. All I have is grit and determination to succeed. I am a sucker for pretty girls and even during my lowest point, girls i met in work (pretty, educated and NOT that materialistic) were happy to date me and some of them do like me.

the problem for me was, I knew i was hard on money while working on my biz. What if my biz fail? I dated them but for the longest time, I never dare pop the question of asking them to be my gf (my consideration was marriage, not a fling and not FWB). these are nice girls that no men should let down.

3. Chase girls and you lose money, chase money and you win girls

We all have to accept women are materialistic in nature and there is nothing wrong. The pressure is on us Men to make money and provide.

There were girls who told me I am very charming in work (I didnt have a house or car even then). Only a dream with a company that is always running into cash flow problems and I was in debt.

That was when I realised girls do not simply dig rich men. Quite a portion of them do believe in love and they do not mind going thro thick and thin with u if you are a resilient man.

Believe it or not, when some of the girls i met knew i had cash flow problems in my company, there were instances when they offered loans (interest free).

And reflecting harder again, i think what attracted them to me was not im handsome (im not handsome at all). but my relentless pursuit of my career (which seem a lost cause then)

So back to ur situation, whatever ur age is, even if you are not running a business, consider a sales job at least.

Be relentless in pursuing money, this is equivalent to the hunters back in stone age where we are valued for being able to provide.

Appearance does not matter at all for men, I have seen short and fat (im not judging here) men with pretty girls.

these are not short and fat men, these are men with dreams and who act on their dreams relentless.

Some times from what I learnt:
1. Be upfront about ur financial situation
2. Have a dream and a plan and work on them. Dun just talk, they can see
3. Pursue money relentlessly. Even if she knows you are not going to be a millionaire, she needs to know you will pursue money rentlentless no matter what

Btw the above happened to a few of my friends who are go getters. We started with nothing and ALL of us are lucky enough to find women who are willing to stick it out with us.

PS: Even during covid, there are people making good money. And I see opportunties where we can do simple business like renting out vans and hiring people to do logistic now. U must be willing to get ur hands dirty. Start from 1 van and grow slowly.

Life eat and breath your dream. Women WILL be attracted to u.

U dun need to be the richest 20% although we should all try. Start small, grow fast and dun stop, u just have to beat the rest of the 50%. And actually the biggest enemy is ourselves. Kick ur own ass and get moving.

All the best