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The insignificant nobody me will have to make presumptions in order to help you.
1. Your spouse had been providing his share for the family -house, utilities, bills, etc.
2. There would had been at least a level of love & intimacy to have gotten into marriage & even bearing a child
3. Perhaps the marriage of years had gotten stale, lacking in excitement of courtship years, so used to each other, that minor faults become major seemingly unresolvable contempt
4. That he is willing to be nicer to your parents proves he is capable of change & values the marriage still. You claimed he is weaponizing the child against you, but had you been weaponizing divorce against him?
Only in fairytales do couples lived happily ever after. In real life, it is no bed of roses daily. You are probably still attractive & sexually active, & will have no lack of men looking for a fling, but age is not a woman's friend. You would want a companion whom will hold your wrinkled hands & walk together in the journey of life in sunset years, & that man is the one whom had shared a life with you for decades, thru he'll & high waters...
You had taken the right 1sr step to seek counselling, but you have to be open minded to listen. They are pros but you may not be comfortable to reveal all to strangers face to face.
Thus you may need a neutral party to help you both, whom knew you both for years, to mend & Bridge divides. It won't be just 1 session, but many, as changes can only come over time, & not overnite.
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