I'm a married man of 12 years. I'm 41. Wifey and I used to fuck like rabbits before marriage and after 2 kids, suddenly the passion stopped. It could be because of hormones after child birth.
I have tried to reignite the passion for 3 years but nothing fruitful. I have also explained to her the need for intimacy in the marriage, but seems to have fallen on deaf ears. She refused counselling too.
Her goal now is to climb the corporate ladder. And when she's not working, she indulges in Netflix till 4am, whether she has fever, flu or menses. When I tried asking for sex, she'd say no due to fever, flu or menses.
Truth is, I was a very geeky, "law abiding" guy before marriage..straight as an arrow. That time I often believed the value of being "faithful" and despised the people who goes out to "play".
As years rolled by and i gather more life experience, I realised a lot of things are not black and white. And i started realising why we men will go "eat outside".
I only had sex with wife 3 times in last 4 years. I think this is a very common stat in Singapore.
What really triggered me to justify me "eating out" was that one sentence wife said to me, when I asked for intimacy and sex .. "I only agreed to have sex with you because I wanted kids."
I have tried commercial sex. But as it stated.. its commercial feel.
I'm on lookout for potential FWB in same boat as me. Married but lonely etc.
If you're asking me why not i seek divorce, I have ever asked my wife twice on this, she refused (for the kids). besides i'll lose everything. And honestly it doesnt really make sense since almost everything else in my marriage is fine, except the intimacy and sex (though its a very big deal).
I can't help that I thought i saw myself in the mirror
Totally agree. Economy is no good but lawyers are still earning big bucks, why donate to them?
Save ur money for FL/ML services.
I've been a monk for don't know how many X years.
We still live under same roof just that not on the same bed. At night she will watch her china shows while I surf my porn or SBF. Usually I will DIY in the living room or toilet. If I am lazy I will do it next to her before I sleep.
We still go out as family for shopping buying household stuff.
The only reason we are not going seperate is because of her religion. Whereas I am doing it for my children's sake.
I am in the same situation. We talk about it and things did get better. But now going back into square 1.
I can understand the frustration of no sex from the marriage n finding sex outside. Can i ask a question to all the bros here who "eat out", do u miss the emotions of love making or just sex would suffice?
I can understand the frustration of no sex from the marriage n finding sex outside. Can i ask a question to all the bros here who "eat out", do u miss the emotions of love making or just sex would suffice?
For me I definitely prefer sex with some emotional connection. Plain sex is not my cup of tea.
I'm a married man of 12 years. I'm 41. Wifey and I used to fuck like rabbits before marriage and after 2 kids, suddenly the passion stopped. It could be because of hormones after child birth.
I have tried to reignite the passion for 3 years but nothing fruitful. I have also explained to her the need for intimacy in the marriage, but seems to have fallen on deaf ears. She refused counselling too.
Her goal now is to climb the corporate ladder. And when she's not working, she indulges in Netflix till 4am, whether she has fever, flu or menses. When I tried
for sex, she'd say no due to fever, flu or menses.
Truth is, I was a very geeky, "law abiding" guy before marriage..straight as an arrow. That time I often believed the value of being "faithful" and despised the people who goes out to "play".
As years rolled by and i gather more life experience, I realised a lot of things are not black and white. And i started realising why we men will go "eat outside".
I only had sex with wife 3 times in last 4 years. I think this is a very common stat in Singapore.
What really triggered me to justify me "eating out" was that one sentence wife said to me, when I asked for intimacy and sex .. "I only agreed to have sex with you because I wanted kids."
I have tried commercial sex. But as it stated.. its commercial feel.
I'm on lookout for potential FWB in same boat as me. Married but lonely etc.
If you're asking me why not i seek divorce, I have ever asked my wife twice on this, she refused (for the kids). besides i'll lose everything. And honestly it doesnt really make sense since almost everything else in my marriage is fine, except the intimacy and sex (though its a very big deal).
I agee with you bro. Me too straight as a slab of Gold i was. Untill 10 years of marraige. Now i realise eating out is the only way to go.
For me I definitely prefer sex with some emotional connection. Plain sex is not my cup of tea.
Yes, I think that's wat most guys n gals like or prefer...not just plain sexual intercourse unless it's commercial sex where the sex act is performed in exchange for $$$... can't imagine having sex with another person without some love or feelings for him or her..
Yes, I think that's wat most guys n gals like or prefer...not just plain sexual intercourse unless it's commercial sex where the sex act is performed in exchange for $$$... can't imagine having sex with another person without some love or feelings for him or her..
Yes, I think that's wat most guys n gals like or prefer...not just plain sexual intercourse unless it's commercial sex where the sex act is performed in exchange for $$$... can't imagine having sex with another person without some love or feelings for him or her..
For most women it's actually very hard to just go for sex with no feelings. Sex and emotions are hardwired to go hand in hand. If men could make do with no emotion sex via transactions then eating out less likely to create a messy situation
13-02-2021, 02:32 PM
.. don't go out of topic k...
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